Erika Alexander as Maxine Shaw on Living Single
do you guys ever just hate that feeling when you realize that you’ve become the third wheel in a friendship
and the only way to get people to really notice you is if you have to fucking scream and yell and cry but otherwise you’re just kind of standing behind them and trying to talk to them and they just completely blow you off
like I really love the people I’m friends with but wow being a third wheel is the most frustrating thing ever and I just get really upset because of it and god I just
I kind of just want to bury myself alive or something or do anything to get out of being a third wheel like wow having no friends at all is a whole lot fucking better than being left out of things all the god damned time and yeah it really sucks to not have friends but I really do prefer it
frustrated I guess :/
We all want our close relationships to work – and it’s not just a matter of chance or luck. The 6 steps below are designed to assist you in creating successful relationships:
1. Make quality time a priority. You need to carve out some time just for you – without other friends or people around. It’s a time to exclusively focus on each other, and remember the things you both love and enjoy.
2. You both need to feel secure and comfortable. You need to be able to be open and real about the things you enjoy - and the things that bother you. You also need to be able to compromise at times, and to give for the sake of the relationship.
3. Learn how to balance independence and dependence. Remember to share how much you need each other and the ways the other person enriches your life. At the same, don’t be clingy or expect your partner to meet all your needs, or simply be a clone of you. That is, we all need to be free to be our unique selves, and to have other interests and friends as well.
4. Be attentive, listen well, and show an interest in your partner – and the kinds of things that interest him or her. Also, respect their need for silence and some time on their own. This demonstrates respect and true concern for them.
5. Be affirming and warm. Make a conscious effort to make your partner smile, and to send the message that you think that they are great. For at times we all feel bad about some aspect of ourselves - and it can really make a difference if our partner’s on our side.
6. Learn to love (or tolerate!) their little quirks. Those cute little quirks that seemed appealing at first can annoy your later on, and be a source of contention. But all of us have irritating traits and habits, so learn to ignore them as they’re really not important!
“Can the main characters not fall in love? It would be more realistic, in my opinion, if we see a guy and a girl (or girl/girl boy/boy or what have you)establish a friendship instead of falling in love and getting married the whole nine yeards, in the end.”
“I love Tiana but I envy her. She was headstrong, ambitious and knew what she wanted just like me. However she found genuine love. I don’t feel like I’ll ever find that because a guy wouldn’t fight to tear down my walls like Naveen did for her.”
I don’t think Naveen tore down any walls… I just think that they both opened each others’ eyes to things they were missing. Naveen lacked structure and focus, which Tiana had in abundance and Tiana lacked the ability to relax and ‘let her hair down’ which Naveen shared with her.
Even though I’ve never been sure of their chemistry as a romantic couple, I can’t deny that their’s is a synergistic relationship. If only we could all be so lucky as to find such a relationship in our own lives…