Factors That Make A Relationship
Relationships are complex entities, made up of a number of factors that all need to come together to make it work. While no two relationships are the same, they share some common factors that come together to help form a winning combination. Here are some of the factors that make a relationship:
- Chemistry. This is probably the factor that differentiates a romantic relationship from a friendship more than anything else. Chemistry, physical attraction, lust or whatever you want to call it, is that extra spark that makes us attracted to our partners above anyone else. Chemistry can fade or intensify or change over the course of the relationship but it’s important that it’s there. Even if you’re part of a long-term relationship it’s still important to feel that spark for your partner.
- Timing. There might be two people who would be perfect together in every way, but if the timing isn’t right the relationship may not ever get off the ground. Both people need to be available and in the right time at the right place so that they can come together to form a relationship.People are often not single at the same time and may be interested in each other for a while before a relationship can actually happen.
- Openness. In addition to simple being available and being in the right place, both people need to be open to the relationship. If one person isn’t interested, doesn’t want a commitment, or simply doesn’t want to get involved with anyone, then the relationship won’t go anywhere. Both people need to be open to experiencing love and commitment in order for the relationship to move forward.
What Your Friends Reveal About Your Personality
They say that you can tell a lot about a person by the company that they keep. What do your friends reveal about you? Here are some of the things that our types of friends reveal about our personalities:
· Small groups. If you prefer to hang out with smaller groups of one or two close friends it means that you are a very loyal person. You value a close-knit, family feeling, and you put a lot of time and energy into your friendships. You get to know each of your friends very well and they know you inside and out. You are more comfortable getting to know only a couple of people really well, rather than being acquaintances with a large group. You value trust and loyalty above all else.
· Big posse. If you’re always surrounded by a big group of friends, you are a very social person. You are extroverted and outgoing and love the dynamics of a big group. You get bored easily and don’t like to commit to one thing at a time. You enjoy variety and getting to know lots of different people at once. You aren’t shy about revealing who you are to lots of people at the same time.
· Lots of different groups. If you are friends with lots of different groups of people it means that you have lots of different tastes, and you thrive when presented with a variety of options. You might have a group of school friends, work friends, sports friends, etc. and you love the hustle and bustle of juggling all of the different personalities in your life. You enjoy a fast paced environment and do well under pressure. You are spontaneous and easy going.
· The same friends forever. If you’ve been friends with the same group forever it means that you are loyal and enjoy routine. You are organized and methodical and enjoy repetition. You love the bond that you have with people you’ve known for years and you enjoy building on the strong bond that you have. You are willing to stick with your friends through thick and thin.
· Always have a new BFF. If you are constantly making new friends and always have a new best friend it means that you are curious and inquisitive and love to see what the world has to offer. You don’t want to commit to anything for too long in fear of missing out on something new and exciting happening. You love variety and new experiences and love having new people to share them with. You thrive in the initial stages of a relationship where you are getting to know each other and can often get bored when you feel like you know someone too well. You don’t like to be predictable.
· Your friends are jerks. If you hang out with a group of people who aren’t known for being very nice to other people, or to each other, then you are somewhat insecure and lacking confidence. You might know that your friends aren’t very nice, but can’t leave them or find a new group because you lack self confidence and the assertiveness you need to stand up to the group. You may be introverted and prefer to sit back and listen while others in the group take the lead. Just because your friends are jerks it doesn’t mean that you are as well, but you need more self-confidence to stand up to their bad behavior.
Every relationships has its highs and lows, it’s joys and its issues. It’s normal to expect some hiccups in our relationships, but these 6 things should be major deal breakers for any of us:
· Lying. Lies, even small ones, should be a red flag that something isn’t right. Why does your partner feel the need to lie to you and what else are they lying about? If they will lie about one thing, what will stop them from lying about everything else? Since trust is a major foundation of any successful relationship, you should consider lying a deal breaker. If you can’t trust your partner, then why would you want to be with them?
· Cheating. Even if it was only once, cheating is a deal breaker. What would stop them from doing it again, and how can you trust them once they’ve cheated? By cheating on you, your partner has shown a great deal of disrespect to both you and the relationship and shows that they don’t value the relationship enough to stay faithful to you.
· Betrayal. Like lying and cheating, betrayal of any kind should not be taken lightly. If your partner has betrayed your trust or your confidence in any way, what will stop them from doing it in the future? You shouldn’t have to think twice before confiding in your partner and wonder if you can trust them.
· Insulting you. Any type of verbal abuse from your partner should not be tolerated. If they insult you or put you down, it’s clear that they don’t respect or value you. And if that’s the case, they may also be likely to break your trust in other ways. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they are treated with kindness and respect.
· You are the lowest priority. If your partner puts everything and everyone else before you, it should be a deal breaker. You don’t want to be their lowest priority. If you are invested in their relationship, you want to have a partner that is as well. You deserve attention and time from your partner, not to be at the bottom of their list.
· Physical abuse. This is a major deal breaker. Not only are you placing yourself in danger by tolerating it, but also you’re confirming your partner’s disrespect for you. If your partner is physically abusive it’s clear that they have their own issues to work out that likely have nothing to do with you, and you shouldn’t wait to stick around while they do that.
Erika Alexander as Maxine Shaw on Living Single
do you guys ever just hate that feeling when you realize that you’ve become the third wheel in a friendship
and the only way to get people to really notice you is if you have to fucking scream and yell and cry but otherwise you’re just kind of standing behind them and trying to talk to them and they just completely blow you off
like I really love the people I’m friends with but wow being a third wheel is the most frustrating thing ever and I just get really upset because of it and god I just
I kind of just want to bury myself alive or something or do anything to get out of being a third wheel like wow having no friends at all is a whole lot fucking better than being left out of things all the god damned time and yeah it really sucks to not have friends but I really do prefer it
frustrated I guess :/
We all want our close relationships to work – and it’s not just a matter of chance or luck. The 6 steps below are designed to assist you in creating successful relationships:
1. Make quality time a priority. You need to carve out some time just for you – without other friends or people around. It’s a time to exclusively focus on each other, and remember the things you both love and enjoy.
2. You both need to feel secure and comfortable. You need to be able to be open and real about the things you enjoy - and the things that bother you. You also need to be able to compromise at times, and to give for the sake of the relationship.
3. Learn how to balance independence and dependence. Remember to share how much you need each other and the ways the other person enriches your life. At the same, don’t be clingy or expect your partner to meet all your needs, or simply be a clone of you. That is, we all need to be free to be our unique selves, and to have other interests and friends as well.
4. Be attentive, listen well, and show an interest in your partner – and the kinds of things that interest him or her. Also, respect their need for silence and some time on their own. This demonstrates respect and true concern for them.
5. Be affirming and warm. Make a conscious effort to make your partner smile, and to send the message that you think that they are great. For at times we all feel bad about some aspect of ourselves - and it can really make a difference if our partner’s on our side.
6. Learn to love (or tolerate!) their little quirks. Those cute little quirks that seemed appealing at first can annoy your later on, and be a source of contention. But all of us have irritating traits and habits, so learn to ignore them as they’re really not important!