10 Tips for Making New Friends


1. Listen to people when they’re talking; show an interest in what they have to say.

2.  Make an effort to remember peoples’ names and use them the next time you meet them.

3. Follow up with people you are interested in staying in touch with. Call them up, send them an email or arrange to meet for a coffee or drink.

4. Treat everyone the same – act as if they are the most important person in the world (at least while you are talking to them).

5. Get involved in clubs and activities. Force yourself to go out and be with others.

6.  In conversations, stick to safe topics before you know someone well. Don’t be quick to share your political or religious views, or to go on about your pet grievances.

7. Make sure you come across as someone who’s friendly the first time you meet someone new. Greet them warmly, smile, share your name and ask them theirs.

8. Be aware of other peoples’ culture and be sensitive to any potential differences. You don’t want to offend other people – either deliberately or inadvertently. The goal is to be seen as a person who is friendly, respectful and warm.

9. Don’t rush your interactions with people as that sends the message that you’re not interested in them, or what they have to say.

10. Don’t be false – just be your normal self. People would prefer to find out who you are.

3 months ago on 10 May 2014 @ 1:47am 2,701 notes


Age Differences in Relationships,
an informational guide for roleplaying by SugarSuggests
A guide about age differences in relationships that covers a wide array of things. This includes why such a relationship might start, how people might react, what the repercussions might be in certain situations, and more. 
This was created purely for roleplaying purposes only! Please like and/or reblog if it was useful!

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6 months ago on 7 February 2014 @ 7:17am 1,303 notes


What is polyamory? Polyamory is the philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously. This is a guide to polyamory, a different kind of relationship type you can explore in roleplay. As a polyamorous individual I’ll guide you through what polyamory is and is not.

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7 months ago on 17 January 2014 @ 11:10pm 1,708 notes

Tips for Improving your Social Skills


1. Work on remembering peoples’ names.

2. Make an effort to stay in touch with people – even if it’s only “liking” an occasional photo on facebook, sending a 2 line email, or sending a Christmas card.

3.  Develop and improve your listening skills. This includes not interrupting when others are speaking, not trying to control the conversation, and showing a respectful, genuine interest in the speaker.

4. Hold the door for others, and let others out first (in elevators, on trains and buses etc.)

5. When you’re writing an email, keep it brief and to the point. Nobody wants to read a long, boring essay.

6. Keep your voice down when you’re talking on your phone. No-one wants to hear your private conversations (and especially when you’re travelling on public transport).

7. Show a genuine interest in the passions of others. Ask lots of open questions, and find out what you can about their hobbies and interests.

8. When someone joins a conversation you’re involved it, include them right away, and try to bring them up to speed.

9. Don’t be a whiner or find fault with everything. Instead, being affirming, optimistic, and try and find the positives.

10. Be tolerant and patient with other people, and do what you can to accept them as they are.

11. Don’t go on and on – so other people fall asleep, begin to feel annoyed or want to run and hide from you.

12. Don’t argue back aggressively, or try to pick a fight, if you disagree with someone – even if you know they’re wrong.    

7 months ago on 3 January 2014 @ 5:51pm 5,086 notes

do you think there’s someone for everyone?

8 months ago on 22 December 2013 @ 1:59am 5 notes

How to Write Believable Relationships That You Haven’t Personally Had



I was raised by a single mother, so I cannot for the life of me write a believable father. Any advice?

I have this same problem! My parents divorced when I was little and my dad only lived an hour away and was/is very involved in my life, but I still find myself always writing young characters whose fathers don’t live in the same house.

I think the bigger issue at hand is how to write relationships that you haven’t experienced. I don’t have any sisters or female cousins, both of my grandfathers passed away before I was born, I’ve never dated a girl. So it’s harder for me to write these relationships.

As with all things you haven’t experienced, research is key. We have a whole topic on writing things you haven’t experienced that may be helpful.

Keep in mind that research doesn’t just mean going to the library and looking up “father” in the encyclopedia. That is part of it, but there are two more things you can do that I think are much more helpful:

1. Observe. Try to think of some friends or family members who have relationships with their fathers who are similar to the relationship you’re trying to write. Are you writing about a toddler and her young, first-time dad? Call up your cousin who just had his first baby and see if you can hang out, or go to a local playground. Writing about an angsty teenager who feels like he can’t live up to his dad’s expectations? Go hang out at your high school buddy’s house when his dad is home. 

While there, observe the dynamic of these relationships and what makes them unique. What do the father and son/daughter say about one another? How do they act around each other, as opposed to when apart? What is their dialogue like?

You don’t necessarily have to set up specific get-togethers or “appointments” to make these observations; just generally be more cognoscente of the father-son/daughter relationships that you come in close encounter with.

2. Read. There are myriad great fathers in literature—Atticus Finch, Arthur Weasley, King Lear. Revisit some of your favorite (or least favorite, depending on the father character you want to create) and try to see what made them memorable. Why does that relationship stick out in your literary memory? How did the narrator, or other of his children, characterize him? 

Here’s a funny article about some famous literary dads to jog your memory of some of your favorites.


Hope that helps! If anyone has anything to add, send an ask.

This topic has been added to the Advice page as “Relationships Research” under both the Characterization and Research headings. This and all related posts will be filed there!

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8 months ago on 14 December 2013 @ 11:53pm 811 notes
Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted. That’s what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either. It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.
9 months ago on 20 November 2013 @ 11:14pm 9,285 notes

Factors That Make A Relationship


Factors That Make A Relationship

Relationships are complex entities, made up of a number of factors that all need to come together to make it work. While no two relationships are the same, they share some common factors that come together to help form a winning combination. Here are some of the factors that make a relationship:

  • Chemistry. This is probably the factor that differentiates a romantic relationship from a friendship more than anything else. Chemistry, physical attraction, lust or whatever you want to call it, is that extra spark that makes us attracted to our partners above anyone else. Chemistry can fade or intensify or change over the course of the relationship but it’s important that it’s there. Even if you’re part of a long-term relationship it’s still important to feel that spark for your partner.
  • Timing. There might be two people who would be perfect together in every way, but if the timing isn’t right the relationship may not ever get off the ground. Both people need to be available and in the right time at the right place so that they can come together to form a relationship.People are often not single at the same time and may be interested in each other for a while before a relationship can actually happen.
  • Openness. In addition to simple being available and being in the right place, both people need to be open to the relationship. If one person isn’t interested, doesn’t want a commitment, or simply doesn’t want to get involved with anyone, then the relationship won’t go anywhere. Both people need to be open to experiencing love and commitment in order for the relationship to move forward.

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9 months ago on 5 November 2013 @ 11:18pm 5,892 notes

What Your Friends Reveal About Your Personality


What Your Friends Reveal About Your Personality

They say that you can tell a lot about a person by the company that they keep. What do your friends reveal about you? Here are some of the things that our types of friends reveal about our personalities:

·        Small groups. If you prefer to hang out with smaller groups of one or two close friends it means that you are a very loyal person. You value a close-knit, family feeling, and you put a lot of time and energy into your friendships. You get to know each of your friends very well and they know you inside and out. You are more comfortable getting to know only a couple of people really well, rather than being acquaintances with a large group. You value trust and loyalty above all else.

·        Big posse. If you’re always surrounded by a big group of friends, you are a very social person. You are extroverted and outgoing and love the dynamics of a big group. You get bored easily and don’t like to commit to one thing at a time. You enjoy variety and getting to know lots of different people at once. You aren’t shy about revealing who you are to lots of people at the same time.

·        Lots of different groups. If you are friends with lots of different groups of people it means that you have lots of different tastes, and you thrive when presented with a variety of options. You might have a group of school friends, work friends, sports friends, etc. and you love the hustle and bustle of juggling all of the different personalities in your life. You enjoy a fast paced environment and do well under pressure. You are spontaneous and easy going.

·        The same friends forever. If you’ve been friends with the same group forever it means that you are loyal and enjoy routine. You are organized and methodical and enjoy repetition. You love the bond that you have with people you’ve known for years and you enjoy building on the strong bond that you have. You are willing to stick with your friends through thick and thin.

·        Always have a new BFF. If you are constantly making new friends and always have a new best friend it means that you are curious and inquisitive and love to see what the world has to offer. You don’t want to commit to anything for too long in fear of missing out on something new and exciting happening. You love variety and new experiences and love having new people to share them with. You thrive in the initial stages of a relationship where you are getting to know each other and can often get bored when you feel like you know someone too well. You don’t like to be predictable.

·        Your friends are jerks. If you hang out with a group of people who aren’t known for being very nice to other people, or to each other, then you are somewhat insecure and lacking confidence. You might know that your friends aren’t very nice, but can’t leave them or find a new group because you lack self confidence and the assertiveness you need to stand up to the group. You may be introverted and prefer to sit back and listen while others in the group take the lead. Just because your friends are jerks it doesn’t mean that you are as well, but you need more self-confidence to stand up to their bad behavior.

1 year ago on 24 July 2013 @ 12:08am 3,855 notes

Deal Breakers


Deal Breakers

Every relationships has its highs and lows, it’s joys and its issues. It’s normal to expect some hiccups in our relationships, but these 6 things should be major deal breakers for any of us:

·        Lying. Lies, even small ones, should be a red flag that something isn’t right. Why does your partner feel the need to lie to you and what else are they lying about? If they will lie about one thing, what will stop them from lying about everything else? Since trust is a major foundation of any successful relationship, you should consider lying a deal breaker. If you can’t trust your partner, then why would you want to be with them?

·        Cheating. Even if it was only once, cheating is a deal breaker. What would stop them from doing it again, and how can you trust them once they’ve cheated? By cheating on you, your partner has shown a great deal of disrespect to both you and the relationship and shows that they don’t value the relationship enough to stay faithful to you.

·        Betrayal. Like lying and cheating, betrayal of any kind should not be taken lightly. If your partner has betrayed your trust or your confidence in any way, what will stop them from doing it in the future? You shouldn’t have to think twice before confiding in your partner and wonder if you can trust them.

·        Insulting you. Any type of verbal abuse from your partner should not be tolerated. If they insult you or put you down, it’s clear that they don’t respect or value you. And if that’s the case, they may also be likely to break your trust in other ways. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they are treated with kindness and respect.

·        You are the lowest priority. If your partner puts everything and everyone else before you, it should be a deal breaker. You don’t want to be their lowest priority. If you are invested in their relationship, you want to have a partner that is as well. You deserve attention and time from your partner, not to be at the bottom of their list.

·        Physical abuse. This is a major deal breaker. Not only are you placing yourself in danger by tolerating it, but also you’re confirming your partner’s disrespect for you. If your partner is physically abusive it’s clear that they have their own issues to work out that likely have nothing to do with you, and you shouldn’t wait to stick around while they do that.

1 year ago on 20 July 2013 @ 11:55pm 2,023 notes